I do not think it would be presumptuous for me to say that life, in all its wonderful gloriousness, tends to nevertheless wear on all of us somedays. I know with the advent of social media it seems that people lead perfect lives of bliss and smiles but underneath the surface we all still struggle. For me personally, I continue to struggle with my body image, my self-confidence, and my self-worth on a daily basis. Those are all the insecurities that gnaw at the corners of my mind, constantly reacting to every experience and trying to turn it into a negative reflection on myself. I guess I always thought that self-confidence and believing in yourself was just something you had or did not have and once you got it it would never leave you. But I'm realizing that life does not work that way. At least for me.
Instead, every day I have to wrestle with these negative thoughts, every day I have to find a new way to pin them down, every day I have to fight to come out on top. And my god it's hard sometimes. But I know that once I get them where I want them, once I find new foolproof ways to banish or at least diminish them, it gets easier. And it cannot come from anyone else but me. The alternative? To wallow in a pool of darkness, self-pity, doubt, and depression? No chance. I'll pass.
So, I have been trying a few new things lately to help me out whenever I feel myself have insecure thoughts but the general gist of it all is positivity, to the extent that things start to get a little corny guys. I know. We've read all those articles before. We've all rolled our eyes. Like I'm really going to repeat a mantra/talk to myself/meditate/hang upsidedown while breathing through one nostril? (okay, that last one was a joke, although hey if it works for you... ;) But anyway, here's where I'm at now and who knows, if you find yourself having a rough day try one of these out. It doesn't hurt a bit and the results could always surprise you.
1. If you find yourself insecure about something or other; whenever you feel your mind drifting to that crazy place of I'm not good enough or I don't deserve ______ think of a place/situation/setting where you always feel secure. Whether that's in the arms of a loved one or that great feeling after going for a run or the confidence you feel at your job, just bring that image to your mind and hold it there. Hold it and breathe and remember that feeling.
2. Have a mantra. Mantra is a fancy-pants word for "a saying that makes you feel better." And whether you say it out loud or just in your head, in your bad moments just bring the mantra to the front of your mind. It can be one word. It can be a whole sentence. I am secure. I am confident. Happiness. It can be anything. Just come back to it every time you feel negativity taking over.
3. Do something in life that makes you happy. So often we get lost in the hum and drum of our routine lives that we neglect to do the things that aren't obligatory but bring light and joy to our world. Stop neglecting those things! In fact, blogging is one of those things for me. It's something that brings me great joy and pride but it's also the first thing to get thrown off the wagon when my life gets busy. I want to keep striving to make it a priority.
Do you have any techniques for keeping that positivity rolling? Share them below please & thank you!